Sunday, May 24, 2020
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Choose Your Reading
by Fernanda Couto, MS Counselor
I don’t know about you but I am having a hard time shutting my brain off at night. I cannot even concentrate to read a book, something that I love doing before going to sleep. Not only are we being bombarded by news, lots of information (not always pleasant or uplifting) but also during our day, while staying at home, we are trying to juggle so much (work, family, social connections virtually, etc.) while trying to stay positive and somewhat sane. It could be exhausting.
When we are overwhelmed, we cannot think straight. Our thoughts race, we get flooded with emotions (that sometimes don’t make sense). That’s very normal in times of crisis (which we are all dealing with, at different levels) and it is hard to use our usual tools to calm our mind. I usually use the metaphor of the snow globe to help kids understand what that looks like: if you think of all that glitter being all shaken about that represents all those feelings/thoughts and how “all over the place” they seem to be, you can never see clearly. However, if you stop shaking, and just wait, be still, the glitter will eventually settle and you can see through it.
I've been thinking a lot about a quote that I love by Deepak Chopra:
“A quiet mind is better than a positive mind”
Seems weird to think that, but having to stay positive through difficult times requires lots of energy and that in itself can be overwhelming or anxiety provoking.
When everything seems to be too much to deal, be still. The secret is not to ignore the thoughts and feelings (remember that all that glitter, even when you don’t see it, it’s there!), just let them go and try to be still. Be present. If just for a moment, a minute. Breathe. I am serious! It really helps.
If you need some inspiration, check it out mindfulness apps like Headspace and Smiling Mind (more kid friendly), both of which are linked below. Learning to quiet our minds, being mindful, can be quite powerful. I am getting better at it. How about you? What do you do to quiet your mind?
Take care of yourself,